Johnie Tolson Bender

Johnie Tolson Bender passed away peacefully on Sunday, October 18, 2026, leaving behind a lifetime of love, laughter, and cherished memories.

Born in 1948, Johnie was a man who never met a stranger and had a remarkable gift for making everyone around him smile. With his quick wit, wonderful sense of humor, and larger-than-life personality, he could brighten even the ordinary moments of life. He was truly a jack of all trades, a man who could fix just about anything, figure out just about everything, and usually make you laugh while doing it.

Johnie had a special love for baseball and devoted many years to the New Bern Babe Ruth Baseball League, serving as both a coach and commissioner. Through his dedication to the game, he touched the lives of countless young players and families, leaving behind memories and friendships that extended far beyond the baseball field.

Fishing was one of Johnie’s favorite hobbies, and he especially enjoyed spending time on the water with his grandchildren. Those moments gave him great joy and created treasured memories filled with laughter, stories, and time spent together.

Above all else, Johnie loved God and his family. His love was evident in the way he lived, the relationships he cherished, and the joy he brought to those fortunate enough to know him.

Johnie was preceded in death by his beloved son, Johnie Tolson Bender Jr.; his parents, Claude T. Bender and Dora McKenzie Bender-Carmack; and his sister, Alice Pearl Andrews.

He is survived by the love of his life, Janet Toler Williams; his children, Jennifer (Mark) Norris, Jason Bender, Jereme Bender, and Daniel (Reed) Williams; and his beloved grandchildren, Ashley (Madison) Struhs, Ryan (Lauren) Bender, Bailey Bender, Madison Norris, Maxton Norris, Woodie Williams, and Allen Williams.

He is also survived by his cherished sisters, Jean Ferrell and Lucy B. Metts, along with many nieces, nephews, cousins, extended family members, and dear friends who held a special place in his heart. The family extends its heartfelt gratitude to Johnie’s nurses and healthcare providers for their compassionate care and support.

Johnie leaves behind more than memories. He leaves behind the laughter he inspired, the lessons he taught, the love he gave so freely, and a family who will carry a piece of him in their hearts forever.

His stories will be told, his laughter will be remembered, and his love will live on through the family he treasured so dearly.